A Prayer for Departing Children
An answer to prayer walked through my door last night - an adult child returned home from a few days away. I had wrestled with his departure, his destiniation, the unmapped future. His trip forced me to trust in God's love for him as greater than my own. Forced me to trust in God's love to carry ME through whatever might happen to my son.
Pre-written prayers are new to our home. Rich's upbringing in a Plymouth Brethren Chapel has influenced our own spiritual practices to avoid liturgy. But a week ago, as this dear son walked into what felt unknown and out of my control, I found comfort in a pre-written prayer. The words expressed what my heart yearned but couldn't voice.
Before he left, my son moaned when I asked him to wait a minute. I fetched Common Prayer from my night stand and returned to the kitchen. Tears welled up in my eyes as I read:
"May the peace of the Lord Christ go with you: wherever he may send you.
May he guide you through the wilderness; protect you through the storm;
May he bring you home rejoicing at the wonders he has shown you.
May he bring you home rejoicing once again into our doors."
He hugged me. Thanked me. And then left.
And he returned. Safe. Home. He enthusiastically shared all the wonders he had seen, we rejoiced.
Recommended Book: Common Prayer: A Liturgy for Ordinary Radicals
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I have enjoyed watching Nathaniel adapt to having his right hand in a cast. He is very creative. Like in the way he decided to look at a book today. He carried his Daniel Tiger book around all day and refused to go outside unless I let him take it along. I am not sure about that cast pillow, but he seemed comfortable and happy in moment. Pretty happy playing with big brother in "bean dirt" earlier this week too.
There were three places I wanted to be on Saturday night: my sister-in-law's surprise fortieth birthday party in Wisconsin, our church's annual fundraiser to support outreach to the marginalized in St. Louis City, and an Eagle Scout ceremony for a young man Rich has encouraged for years.
Instead I spent Saturday evening standing outside a chicken coop with Nathaniel.
I write so much about Nathaniel's communication needs, that I have not put into writing the other areas of development that we are addressing in therapy. There are many. Nathaniel continues to have a global developmental delay and some significant sensory processing needs. He has consistently received Occupational Therapy and Physical Therapy in addition to his twice weekly Speech Therapy. We had a long day of appointments at St. Louis Children's earlier this month and the collective decision was to start some new weekly therapy there to address some of the sensory needs. We go tomorrow for our first visit, which increases OT to twice a week now. We are putting PT on hold for a time to allow for the extra focus on OT.
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We were lying side by side on the floor in the empty bedroom when Rich whispered, “I want to submit our home study for the baby.”
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I have a box of Christmas things marked "OPEN BEFORE THANKSGIVING." It contains the items we need to celebrate Advent: our wreath and candles, booklets of Advent readings from previous years, our Christmas music CD's, homemade nativity scenes, and three of our favorite family read-alouds for the Advent season
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